19 Deluded, or What?
“Lady Di could be bicycling nude down the street giving this book away and nobody would read it”…was a genuine review of Susan Jeffers, author of ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’ which became one of the most inspirational and successful books of all time.
Sometimes the encouragement we get from other people in achieving our dreams is amazing, and sometimes, less so.
There is one question that can prevent you even starting on your dream journey.
It is the one I am asked at every seminar and event that I deliver. It is never the first question, because the person asking it wants to make sure they word it correctly. They may be worried that they are the only person who thinks it is an issue, and are waiting to see if someone else asks it first.
And no wonder it takes a while to come out, for it is the ultimate question. People will use different words; ask it with different attitudes, and with varying degrees of passion. It all comes down to
these six words:
“When do you finally accept defeat?”
I don’t know the answer to this question, but you will know how successful you are, by the number of people who reject what you are doing, or thinking.
But as I don’t have an answer, let’s take a look at these seven unknown, totally deluded characters:
7 Thomas Edison ‘failed’ over 9000 times before perfecting the light bulb! How many of us would have thrown in the ‘proverbial’ towel at 20 failures, 150 failures or at the 8,000th failure. After Edison had invented and produced the light-bulb, a reporter asked him how it felt to fail over 9000 times. Edison replied, “I was glad I found 9000 ways not to invent the light bulb!”
6 Elvis Presley’s music teacher at L.C.Humes High School in Memphis gave him a C and told him he couldn’t sing (as I mentioned before, how many of us learned at school we weren’t very good at things, and how often we are proved right?). Fortunately Elvis ignored this…
5 The Bee. I know it’s not a person; however this insect is totally deluded, for bees actually believe they can fly! Bumble bees, according to the known laws of aerodynamics, should not be able to fly. Fortunately, bumble bees don’t read much about aerodynamics, so they don’t realise they are doing something they are not supposed to be able to do
4 James Redfield’s book, “The Celestine Prophecy”, was widely rejected but just before delusion kicked in, he self-published it. Just as well, for it has become one of the biggest selling mind-body-spirit books in the history of publishing, ten million (plus) copies later
3 Cameron Mackintosh decided to produce a musical about felines at a venue (The New London) that had never had a hit. Most people thought him mad, and certainly deluded. Yet, Cats became one of the longest running musicals ever. A few years later, clearly not having learned his lesson, he produced another show, wait for it, set in pre-revolutionary France, featuring poverty, death and despair. How entertaining is that? It opened to very small audiences at The Barbican in London and almost every critic hated it. Cameron would surely finally accept defeat, wouldn’t he?
I’m afraid not. Les Misérables is now the most successful musical in the world!
2 After years of rejection, an American novelist started a story about a teenager named Carietta White. Disgusted with what he had written, he screwed up the pages and threw them in the rubbish bin. His wife pulled those pages out of the bin, read them, and then convinced her husband to complete the story – which became the huge best-seller Carrie. Stephen King is now one of the most successful authors of all time
1 You. Please, whatever you are doing right now, revisit what you most dream, desire and deserve. Perhaps it is new; perhaps it is an old wish, dusted off anew. It may be personal; it may be reconnecting with your partner or your children. It may be forgiving someone in your family, after many years. It may be to do with your work or career.
Whatever it is – please go for it, and be the very best that you already are.
And as you do, always remember, it will be those people who tell you that you are deluded, that will be the first to tell you, when you achieve your dream, “I always knew you would be successful”
And in answer to that question; “When do you finally accept defeat?”
I think I’ve worked it out…
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