The Naked Leader

30 The fastest way to make any change in your life
We are human beings, not human doings. We will know at any moment of our lives whether we are “being” or whether we are “doing” by how we feel. The most natural feeling in the world is total and absolute one-ness. Inner peace.

Too often we live our lives in reverse. “If I get promoted then I will do my job better because I will have value and then I will BE a better leader.” Or, “if I get the big job, car and house, I can drive around looking important, entertain lavishly, then I really will be somebody.”

Absolute calm is restored into our lives when we decide to live our lives in the grandest version of our grandest vision. This does not mean we walk around with a “holier than thou,” arrogant expression, quite the reverse. It is the difference between knowing, and telling, it is the difference between self, and ego. Absolute calm comes from within, and when we move from Get>Do>Be to Be>Do>Get.

How can we do this? How long will it take us? One single heartbeat. In the moment we take in, embrace and make happen, the following, life-transforming statement:

The single most powerful way to make any change in your life, is to act as if that change has already been made.

WOW!!!

When I first heard this my head went into a spin – what???

Whenever I share this with others it is greeted with silence, and this always prompts my three thirds theory, as it will right now:

A third of people reading this, will believe it straight away and want to get on with it, NOW!

A third of people will be unconvinced, but interested enough to be convinced

A third of people will be in a state of disbelief, and will never have read anything so crazy in their life, and will now have me firmly categorised as a “wacko”

Which of these categories do you come into? And which one of these groups is “right.”

They all are, of course!

There is no right or wrong, there is only what serves you, and what does not. And these are simply words on a page inside a book with a strange x-ray image of a suit on the cover.

This acting “as-if” is the complete opposite of everything I ever previously learned about success. By the way, it has many other names. If I was out to really impress you I would tell you what Psychologists call it, oh, all right then – wait for it – “autogenic conditioning”. Just a small wow this time. It’s also known as “fake it ’till you make it.”

But that is all irrelevant to the possibilities it opens up in our lives, and the fact that our lives can be transformed so fast. I have seen a father reconnect with his daughter, just be thinking “as-if” – they had not been close for many years, she was at University and he was working every hour there was.

He wanted to re-ignite their relationship, their friendship, and their love. And so he wrote his outcome:

“I will have a close, loving relationship with Rebecca, based on mutual trust, openness and friendship”

I asked him to word it in the present, in the “as-if”

He said ok and wrote:

“I will have a close, loving relationship with Rebecca, based on mutual trust, openness and friendship”

His brain would not allow him to do it – after all, we all know that success is something that happens in the future, it cannot happen NOW. Success is something we all aspire to, it cannot be here, with us, NOW. After all, it takes time to achieve, often many years of grind and hardship, it cannot arrive NOW.

It can, and it does, and it did for my friend. I took a pen, and crossed out just one word.

“I will have a close, loving relationship with Rebecca, based on mutual trust, openness and friendship”

And his life changed forever. One pen stroke made in one heartbeat. He looked at the piece of paper and left the room, mobile phone in hand. I knew who he was going to call…and that was four years ago, and I am delighted, humbled, to report that father and daughter (now 22) are doing well, and two people could not be closer.

Let us look at what happened here:

From

“I will have a close, loving relationship with Rebecca, based on mutual trust, openness and friendship”

to

“I have a close, loving relationship with Rebecca, based on mutual trust, openness and friendship”

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The Naked Leader – the best-selling guide to unlimited success

“An extraordinary book for an extraordinary time…Compulsory reading for any organisation that believes in the power of a motivated workforce”

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