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Your Personality - Your Choice
Personality/Team member type questionnaires are only taking a snapshot at a single point in time in your life. If they conclude that you are, say, an introvert, that is only how you feel at that moment and you can choose to change. Otherwise a test you do at age five will give you exactly the same results at age twenty, which is clearly not the case. Your learning, experience and conditioning between five and twenty will lead to a different result.
The danger is when we believe we are a natural ‘whatever’ type and that we can do nothing about it. After making this discovery, we revert to type, and start to behave accordingly. Then we can use the results of the Personality Test as an excuse for our behaviour - after all it is not under our own control.
We may even judge the quality of our relationships based on our results compared to theirs. Have you ever heard anything so ridiculous? Imagine a child saying to you they are worried about going to play with a friend because “he is a PTUI personality and because I am an HJQP I don’t think we are going to get on.”
Personality is a matter of choice, not a matter of birth.
What do you think?
With my love
David (type FJKP!)
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Poll: Our personalities are a matter of choice, not birth (Agree/Disagree)
I have an evolving personality. It makes me what I am. I know I can change and I do.
Of course, your personality can be altered depedning on your circumstances. I don't believe in the mantra people are born, not made. You make yourself into something else. Otherwise there would be no choices in life.
Having sat individual Myers Briggs tests, along with my family, a couple of years ago, (I am an INFP), I too have spent much time pondering, discussing and debating all the questions and more raised on this subject by David.
There is a school of thought that a person's 'core' personality is well established at a very young age, approximately by the end of the seventh year. This is achieved through the process of nurture and nature, as the mind matures using the information it takes in by 'original' association, (its first experiences). It is these associations that the child then uses to create its reality, initially rather black and white polarized thinking, it then uses subsequent associations to generalize on the world thereafter. However, there is further opportunity as the child matures to challenge its original associations and alter their perception by the influential force of significant adults in the child's life into their teen years.
As people we evolve throughout our lives, a five year old does not view the world in the same way as a twenty year old, or a fifty year old. Yes we do all have great capacity to change from within and to utilize parts of our personalities and intelligences perhaps not sufficiently expressed previously, but our mind uses its core personality associations to do so.
It is this that such personality tests attempt to reflect, a core personality type to give a mere indication, of what one is likely to be, not a fixed rigid dogma, but a thought provoker. For instance, no INFP is exactly the same as another, they can't be, as they don't posses the same life experiences, but it is still helpful to have an indication of how another INFP, or any other type, MAY think and thus react in a certain way.
The news of two small boys in Doncaster accused of a prolonged and vicious attack on others of a similar age is very much in all our hearts and minds at this present time. There is much in the saying, "Give me a child until they are seven and I will have them for life". Let's hope that there are some talented significant adults in these young boys lives now to challenge their perceptions into their teen years.