3 weird ways to make E-Mails work for you

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3 weird ways to make E-Mails work for you

No e-mail has any meaning, other than the meaning that you personally choose to give it.I recently received an email that contained the following seven words, and the sender asked me what I thought it meant.

I didn’t say she stole the money

As I read it, I emphasized different words , and each time it gave the sentence a whole new meaning:

I didn’t say she stole the money (Someone else did).

I didn’t say she stole the money (I deny saying it).

I didn’t say she stole the money (However, she clearly did steal it).

I didn’t say she stole the money (It was stolen by someone else).

I didn’t say she stole the money (She has the money for some other reason – perhaps she was given it by someone else).

I didn’t say she stole the money (She stole something else).

Same thing with texts. On Friday last week I sent a text to the Commercial Manager of Woking FC saying “Please invite John M and David H to Monday’s press launch”

He replied “Thanks!”

Did he mean thank you, or was he being sarcastic because it was a) obvious or b) he had already done it, or perhaps he didn’t want them to be invited .

OK – 3 really weird ways to make E-Mails work for you:

1. Assume e-mails you receive are really positive and respond as such. We spend years learning how to talk listen and communicate, then suddenly email arrived…with the “emotions” taken out…so we assign meaning to every email, sentence and word. And we very often assume something is negative, when often it is not. Doctors tell us that worry is not good, so welcome each and every email in your Outlook in-box as if it was an unopened Christmas present. Unwrap it, and read it as if it has come from someone who wishes you well in all of your life.

2. Just before you send an email, read it through in the opposite way to the way you now receive them. In other words, what possible negative, damaging or misunderstandings could your wording create? And change accordingly.

3. Do some NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) on your email replies – the sender begins with “Hi” you reply the same. Use the same number of sentences they did, if they use short words, you do the same etc. and end with the same ending. Then, read it through as under 2 above, and then send.

And if the person you are sending it to reads this, they will read it in a very positive way.

With my love and best wishes!

David X

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