- 1st July 2013
- Posted by: Rosalind Howard
- Category: NL Week
As I read it, I emphasized different words , and each time it gave the sentence a whole new meaning:
I didn’t say she stole the money (Someone else did).
I didn’t say she stole the money (I deny saying it).
I didn’t say she stole the money (However, she clearly did steal it).
I didn’t say she stole the money (It was stolen by someone else).
I didn’t say she stole the money (She has the money for some other reason – perhaps she was given it by someone else).
I didn’t say she stole the money (She stole something else).
Same thing with texts. On Friday last week I sent a text to the Commercial Manager of Woking FC saying “Please invite John M and David H to Monday’s press launch”
He replied “Thanks!”
Did he mean thank you, or was he being sarcastic because it was a) obvious or b) he had already done it, or perhaps he didn’t want them to be invited .
2. Just before you send an email, read it through in the opposite way to the way you now receive them. In other words, what possible negative, damaging or misunderstandings could your wording create? And change accordingly.
3. Do some NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) on your email replies – the sender begins with “Hi” you reply the same. Use the same number of sentences they did, if they use short words, you do the same etc. and end with the same ending. Then, read it through as under 2 above, and then send.
And if the person you are sending it to reads this, they will read it in a very positive way.
With my love and best wishes!