- 8th July 2013
- Posted by: Rosalind Howard
- Category: NL Week
Time to Listen: 3 Minutes 2 Seconds
I was asked last week “What if people spot me using Naked Leader tools and techniques that I read in your books or on twitter or in your blogs?” – The short answer is to embed them as part of what you do every day, with absolute confidence.
Five key points that will help you do this:
1. Everything in Naked Leader is aimed at building rapport and trusted relationships with yourself, and with each other. If your ethics are about helping others, you will be fine.
2. Children do this stuff – you did when you were a child – to a degree we are simply relearning, remembering and repeating what we once knew and did every day as a matter of course.
3. Naked Leader is about returning to be your true self – if any lying, unethical or dark manipulation is going on here it is in the false, negative messages and manipulations that are being done to you, all the time, by the media, by your own inner voice of doubt, and by people playing darker politics.
4. Have fun with all tools and techniques – they won’t hurt anyone! You will know if what you are doing is “working,” by both the results, and how you feel as you use them – if you feel awkward then you will be awkward and they will not work.
5. What happens if two people know the same technique e.g. handshake?* – then you will build rapport, faster!
Ultimately, focus on the outcome you want for yourself, and others, and every day do what helps take you closer to achieving it. If something does not “work” then do something else.
With my love and best wishes
Please share which “leadership tools and techniques work, for you, and those that don’t
To make a great first impression when meeting someone – go to shake hands (1) look into their eyes, pause for 1/10th of a second and smile warmly – and introduce yourself as you move in to shake her/his hand (2) immediately match their grip strength (unless they squeeze your hand off, in which case withdraw your hand) and have the angle of your elbow the same as theirs (3) Let them dictate the personal space – you will feel where it is “right,” and (4) mirror their feet – stand as if their feet are yours in a mirror.
Why does this work? Because we like people who are like ourselves.