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Time to Read – Somewhere between 40 and 120 seconds – you have my word

Do you keep your word?

To yourself, and to others.

Giving our word that we will do something is so very easy, and fast.

Keeping our word by following through may be so very hard, and take awhile.

Before the outbreak of Civil War in America, President Abraham Lincoln invited General Robert E Lee to take command of the entire Union Army. Lee declined because he had given his word to his home state of Virginia that, should it leave the Union, he would never take arms against it. By the time he was asked, Virginia had indeed left the Union and joined with the other Southern breakaway states. In short, he kept his word.

Long before legal contracts, lawyers and courts, a handshake was considered enough – “you have my word” was as good as saying “it shall be so.”

In this very fast moving Facebook, texting Twitter email world, it may be that keeping one’s word is ever more important.

How often will you give your word, this week?

And how often will you keep it?

With my love to you all

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  • David,
    An excellent reminder. It is all about trust.
    Here is a technique that I have used to good effect. (Only with business contacts, NEVER family)
    At the end of a transaction offer a handshake to the other party, then offer to immediately take the next step on their say so. – i.e Offer to trust them.
    Your next reaction will be to mirror their degree of openness. eg. If they are hesitant then you hesitate, if they act then you can continue to act.
    It has saved me a lot of time in the long run
    NB – it may even have been you who taught me this.
    Have a great week.

  • Rosie

    Very interesting Adam – so you’re saying after agreeing and shaking hands you say shall i now got in and do x asap? and if they say weell! and prevaricate its a guid e that they wont play their part?
    That would save time.

  • I like to give my word althou8gh sometimes, it can be broken if circumstances dictate. It’s not always possible to keep it as often as i’d like.
    You can only offer trust and if it turns out that you can’t keep to it, as, for instance you owe someone money and you can’t pay them because you are owed money and they haven’t paid you.
    It gets complicated.

  • trust works both ways. If you say you are going to do something it should be done, simple as that. Business is nothing without integrity although that premise doesn’t hold true with many nowadays.

  • I gave my word to someone twice today and I intend to keep it.
    I don’t really go with the premise that you can change your mind if circumstances dictate.
    You are either a person who is as good as their word, or not.
    There are no in-betweens.

  • I agree with that, you must keep your word if you say you are going to do something otherwise your credibility is lost, especially in business.
    It takes time to win customers, and trust in general, and it’s easy to lose that just by being dishonest or not doing what you promised.

  • Promises are damned hard to keep. I always keep mine to an extreme and therefore never give them lightly, as a promise kept has the potential to be truely life changing.

  • Promises should always be kept whether or not it is hard to keep them.
    Integrity is everything in business, without it, you are nowhere.

  • Giving your word is paramount in business.
    If you can’t do that there is no reason for anybody to trust you.
    Building relationships with people breeds trust. If you can’t give someone your word and keep it then you are not much use in business.

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