Give Your Child a Voice – Revisited

PUSHING the boundaries. Most parents will be familiar those three words which suggest negativity in terms of a child’s perceived behaviour.

So how refreshing to consider an alternative. A DVD that dares to take on the concept of allowing a child a voice, in a positive way, so as to unleash the gifts of that young person as they strive to explore themselves and their identity. And in doing so, to earn the elder/mentor/teacher far greater respect from that child for allowing them the space to deliver their special and unique personality.

Kids are really different these days, by Alan Wilson ( opened my eyes to a new way forward, with its innovative, yet simple to understand message on how to get the best of your relationship with a child. To accept an answer from a child as a creative idea to explore, rather than a right or wrong answer.

Thus giving an open and potentially positive avenue of discussion, rather than a closed, negative one. To listen, rather than to judge. After all, a world where we expect a right and wrong, or black and white answer, can take away the potential for genius in all of us.

As one contributor suggested, ‘to structure an adult framework around a child who now has a nano-second ability to learn and understand is crazy.’ Stifling a child because of our obsession with analytical and logic can be detrimental to their evolution too. ‘Has your child got an unexplored vision for the world?’ is a question raised in the narrative and surely it is within every individual’s compass to at least give our children a chance to communicate it.

The title is revolutionary in itself. Think about it and the emphasis could be placed on each of the words in the name, with equal relevance, simply because of the extraordinary advances made in every aspect of humanity in the past 30 years.

Kids are different. Kids are really different and kids are really different. They are also really different. As are these days with the advent of technology and all that it entails.

Alan Wilson’s robust and authoritative concept could spark positive connectivity around the globe if only people would give it a chance.

If your child is consistently pushing the boundaries, dare you ignore it?


  • Fascinating and a very true ideal. I like it. Let’s all adopt that philosophy with children. It makes me feel humble that on occasions, I haven’t acted like that with my own children at times. Thank you.

  • I felt the same when I read it Chris. It’s lovely to know there are people out there who really care about children and what we can do for them. It’s inspirational stuff and hope that others follow suit with that way of thinking.

  • I haven’t got children although I have friends who have and this sort of advice could be invaluable to them. Trying to give them something positive every day, without saying no to them, is crucial in their development by the sounds of things. I can see that this is a very good way of trying to interact with the younger folk among us.
    Of course there have to be guidelines. They can be adjusted though, without having to be too strict.

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