Kids are really different – still

DAVID’S Naked Leader week focuses on trying to convert a ‘no’ to a ‘yes’ when dealing with people. And he mentions, children get to hear the word ‘no’ 400 times more than ‘yes’. That’s a shame.

It got me thinking again about a man who understands child behaviour, Alan Wilson. And this was an article about his DVD ‘Kids Are Really Different These Days’ to remind us of the importance of how we deal with our children.

PUSHING the boundaries. Most parents will be familiar those three words which suggest negativity in terms of a child’s perceived behaviour.

So how refreshing to consider an alternative. A DVD that dares to take on the concept of allowing a child a voice, in a positive way, so as to unleash the gifts of that young person as they strive to explore themselves and their identity. And in doing so, to earn the elder/mentor/teacher far greater respect from that child for allowing them the space to deliver their special and unique personality.

Kids are really different these days, by Alan Wilson ( opened my eyes to a new way forward, with its innovative, yet simple to understand message on how to get the best of your relationship with a child. To accept an answer from a child as a creative idea to explore, rather than a right or wrong answer. Thus giving an open and potentially positive avenue of discussion, rather than a closed, negative one. To listen, rather than to judge. After all, a world where we expect a right and wrong, or black and white answer, can take away the  potential for genius in all of us.

As one contributor suggested, ‘to structure an adult framework around a child who now has a nano-second ability to learn and understand is crazy.’ Stifling a child because of our obsession with analytical and logic can be detrimental to their evolution too. ‘Has your child got an unexplored vision for the world?’ is a question raised in the narrative and surely it is within every individual’s compass to at least give our children a chance to communicate it.

The title is revolutionary in itself. Think about it and the emphasis could be placed on each of the words in the name, with equal relevance, simply because of the extraordinary advances made in every aspect of humanity in the past 30 years. Kids are different. Kids are really different and kids are really different. They are also really different. As are these days with the advent of technology and all that it entails.

Alan Wilson’s robust and authoritative concept could spark positive connectivity around the globe if only people would give it a chance.

If your child is consistently pushing the boundaries, dare you ignore it?


  • Paul Charlton

    I like the concept of listening to children. really listening as we can learn a lot from them. This is a very refreshing article. I have two children and have often asked them things without really taking in what it is they are trying to say. Next time they talk to me I shall make a point of hearing them and interacting on their level. Perhaps even by going down to their face level which could make a difference.

  • Mark

    I haven't got children but i can see how this concept can work. I have a niece who demands a lot of attention and i try to help out.Do I really know him though? I don't see him enough to really do that but i enjoy his company and make an effort which I suppose as adults is all we can do.

  • Chris

    As adults we have a duty to allow youngsters to develop and give them freedom to do so. that's the thing about getting older. They ned to be given room to develop into that special individual and find out what they are really good at.

  • Mary Hull

    I have a couple of nephews and are intrigued by what they want to tell me and how they interact with me.They enjoy spilling out all sorts of information and they love a receptive answer to questions. they want you to be involved in their decision-making process and they listen to every word and try to take it in.The other day I said to my nephew, 'when you are playing with that glue, don't get it on the carpet and bed in your room.'Next thing I know he is explaining a notice he has put on the door saying, 'rules of playing with glue in my room…no getting it on the carpet or bed.'That's great in a way that they are learning and listening and scary in another in that they copy everything from you. That's quite daunting.

  • Chris Everton

    Children develop at their own rate and it's great to see them interact with adults. sometimes they are bursting to tell you something and what I try to do is go down to their level, on my knees, or crouching so that they can really talk to you, not up at you. When they get a report from school which is good and you sit and discuss with them, as a six-year-old, it really means something to them. I try my best to make sure that's what i do and that way I get so much more out of the relationship and so do others.

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