Try to read this..

Time to Read TRYING – possibly forever, READING – 1 minute.

NO – you ARE reading this I said TRY!

When you say ‘I am going to try and exercise 3 times a week’, your friend says ‘I will try and get round to ringing you over the weekend’, or you partner says they ‘will try dieting on Monday’.

It’s not going to happen.

The self-talk which will allow ourselves off if we can’t be bothered to put the effort into something.

I asked you to try to read this – it’s a nonsense isn’t it? To talk about trying to do something you have control over?

There is so much we CAN do but we let ourselves off – I tried… it didn’t work out.

What we mean is

‘If there are no other distractions, I don’t think it’s too boring, I don’t read the paper or stay in bed for an extra 5 minutes, and no one else asks me to do something with them or to help them, I remember to bring your phone number home from the office, there are no biscuits in the house then I might do it if I’m still in the frame of mind and there’s nothing in the world I would rather do.’

Real trying is when you can’t control things like the weight of something you are ‘trying‘ to lift Or the response of other people when you are ‘trying’ to obtain raffle prizes for a charity.

Be honest with yourself if you have control over that part of your life then don’t just TRY – DO.

People who TRY – LOSE! – People who DO – WIN!

David
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15 Comments

  • Mat Cowell

    As Yoda said – “Do or do not – there is no try!”

  • Ben

    In the words of Yoda, “Do or do not… there is no try.”

  • Hi David – Thanks for the message – one of very few I have read from you for a while. Why? I think its because I interpreted the word “try” as a challenge and I wanted to prove myself by taking upo the challenge and succeeding.You see, an ex-colleague of mine (I think inspired by your boo) tried this one on me. he said “try to pick up this pen” and then when I did start to pick up his pen he said “No! I didn't say pick up my pen, I said 'try to pick up my pen'”.Whilst I agree that the self-talk can be loaded with potential get-out clauses, to me this is splitting hairs and playing with words.You see if you had left the word “try” out of your subject it would have read “read this” and I probably would't have because it would have been an instruction (with no motivation behand it) not a personal challenge to me.So, what do I conculde? If you (or I ) want to get me to do something, issue me with a challenge – one which I feel I might succeed at and that I might benefit from of course, and one of the simplest ways to do this is to use the word “try” – You should try it! Oh, you just did!!As the advert once said “you don't know until you've tried it”

  • Hi David – Thanks for the message – one of very few I have read from you for a while. Why? I think its because I interpreted the word “try” as a challenge and I wanted to prove myself by taking up the challenge and succeeding.You see, an ex-colleague of mine (I think inspired by your book) tried this one on me. He said “try to pick up this pen” and then when I did start to pick up his pen he said “No! I didn't say 'pick up my pen', I said 'try to pick up my pen'”.Whilst I agree that the self-talk can be loaded with potential get-out clauses, to me this is splitting hairs and playing with words.You see if you had left the word “try” out of your subject it would have read “read this” and I probably would't have because it would have been an instruction (with no motivation behand it) not a personal challenge to me.So, what do I conculde? If you (or I ) want to get me to do something, issue me with a challenge – one which I feel I might succeed at and that I might benefit from, of course, and one of the simplest ways to do this is to use the word “try” – You should try it! Oh, you just did!!As the advert once said “you don't know until you've tried it”

  • Tony Westwood

    As Yoda said to a young Luke Skywalker:”There is no TRY, just DO or NOT DO”

  • Tony

    I used to be in the “try” camp too often and it bothered me. One of the things I found that was getting in the way of just doing things were all the difficult and awkward tasks on my list – and these somehow seemed to act as mental block to just getting on. My solution was to just do all the difficult and awkward things as soon as they arose or as soon as was practicable – which has made just doing things in general that much easier.

  • Mohammadiftikar

    David I agree with you entirely. Its no good trying. Just doing it, what ever it takes to do so, makes the difference between success and failure. Best of luck to you and your family plus other readers in their future ventures. Iftikar

  • How uncanny is that! One of my affiramtions ends …”I can no longer say I can't!” and I was only telling someone today there is no such thing as 'try', you either 'can' or 'you can't' and whatever you choose you will be right! Thank you

  • Alan

    Hi David,Great theme this week. I encourage the parents I work with to not use the word ‘try’. Just consider the consequences of the choices you have and then act on your preferred choice. They tell me it’s quite empowering.Love LIFE!Alanhttp://www.parentchampion.com

  • Michael

    The message was so powerful from Paul he said it twice!

  • Paul Charlton

    Trying is something we all believe children do. But they are not trying, they are doing. If they were trying they would be failing because actually, they are just getting on with it and doing which is something completely different.They are not trying to ride a bike…they are riding a bike.They are not trying to swim…they are swimming.They are not trying to sing…or trying to do anything…they are doing it.Etc, etc, etc.A good point well made, David.

  • Mary

    I was going to try and read that post. Then I decided just to read it.

  • Ali

    If my father had still been alive he would've been 101 this year and he was telling me this back in the 60s (he died when I was 11). I have never forgotten his advice. He used to say there is no 'try', only do or don't do.
    Great to see that you're saying the same things today! He'd have been very proud!
    ali

  • Mark

    If at first you don't succeed, do, do again.

  • Chris Everton

    A friend tried to give up smoking four years ago. He is still 'trying.'

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